Hey everyone so for a bit of context,, I (18F) have level 2 autism and don’t really handle being yelled at particularlywell,l plus I tend to avoid conflict. This also happens every Christmas except forthe lastt one where he got COVID.
My parents (53F & 51M) are also divorced and have been divorced since I was in year 3 and they haven’t been on speaking terms since. I’ve also been living withmom mum without swapping weeks since about 2021. It was my decision after a large argument I got into with my dad after my doctor labeled him as being abusive.
So onto the story about a week before Christmas, my dad called me up and insisted on picking me up at 12pm,, which I’ve always tended to hate since I never get enough time to talk to my mom’s side of the family. I asked him if I could have more time,, like an hour ortwo,o which was when he started screaming at me over the phone.
During this conversation, he mainly calls me stupid for notunderstanding’streett smarts’ and how my mmomis clearly ‘drugged up and convincing her ex to be her drug dealer (my mom’s ex was going to be at the party because my half sister’s children were there). He proceeded to dismiss the time one of my doctors called him abusive before I eventually gave up and gave into the idea of being picked uup at12pm despite being obviously upset about it (I was crying because of him yelling at me).
Aftthat,hat we left it there until Christmas EveEve,ere I asked my mom if she could try convincing him,, which,, although she agreed, n’t help. So moving to today, I woke up and had a missed call from my dad so I called him back up where we said merry Christmas to each other before I asked about having more time at moms again.
He got angry at this and proceeded to scream at me but I stood my ground and insisted on going going 1-2pm and not going at 12pm. This resulted in him deciding to cancel the Christmas plans I had with him because he’makesmy life miserable’ (I didn’t say tthis;I said not seeing the rest of my mom for more than 30 minutes sours my mood for the rest of the day) before giving me the silent treatment hanging up on me.
This was after I said that the earliest I’m going is 1pm before. I don’t care about how he thinks it’s unfair thatmomm ‘gets more hours over the year’ because I’m not even covering my child support anymore and he’s technically getting more of the day regardless on Christmas.Honestly,
y I’m just a bit confused over this whole situation I still want to see him as him,ad presents I handhim,e for him which probably won’t even be given. I don’t even really care about my presents;; I just want to spend more time with some of my family that I only usually see ristmas.
I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong anymore or what to think about this. If I am in the wrong,, I will apologize,, but I’m pretty sure that he’s not bluffing about canceling Christmas knowing him so reddit, AITA?
Also,, apologies for the bad bad formatting;; I’m on mobile.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
I think I might be just from the way my dad reacted to me after asking to stay at my mums for one more hour that I might be the asshole. Plus because this I’ve also canceled Christmas plans that me and my dad had for dinner with my uncle and aunt from my dad’s side. I think I may of acted perhaps too harshly as I wasn’t really thinking particularly clearly at the time.
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My parents (53F & 51M) are also divorced and have been divorced since I was in year 3 and they haven’t been on speaking terms since. I’ve also been living with my mum without swapping weeks since about 2021. It was my decision after a large argument I got into with my dad after my at the time doctor labeled him as being abusive.
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