I read a story on Reddit about someone who recently ended a year-and-a-half relationship and is struggling with guilt over moving on. They broke up with their ex two months ago because he didn’t want a future with them a reality they’d been coming to terms with for the past six months. Feeling ready to start a new chapter, they downloaded a dating app and reconnected with someone they had feelings for in the past.
The ex, however, didn’t take it well when he found out they were on Tinder. He lashed out, calling them names and making them feel guilty for trying to move on. Now, as they’re getting to know someone new, someone they genuinely like who is making an effort to spend time with them, they’re torn between their excitement for the future and the lingering guilt their ex planted in their mind.
You’re not a bad person for moving on. Your relationship ended because your ex didn’t see a future with you. You deserve to be happy and find someone who does. If you’ve processed the breakup and feel ready, trust yourself. Your ex’s reaction is about his own emotions, not your actions.
Exactly. Moving on “too soon” is subjective. If you’re genuinely excited about this new guy and feel like you’re in a good place emotionally, there’s no rule that says you have to wait a specific amount of time. Your ex had his chance; don’t let his guilt-tripping hold you back.
The general sentiment among commenters was that there’s no universal timeline for moving on after a breakup, it’s about emotional readiness. They urged the writer to trust their own feelings and not let their ex’s reaction cloud their judgment. Many emphasized that being excited for the future is a sign they’re ready for the next chapter, and they deserve to embrace it without guilt.