My ex-wife and I finalized our divorce proceedings last year after her one-night stand. The one-night stand really hurt me and it made me really sad and angry. My ex-wife did apologize a lot and was willing to do anything I asked but I lost all emotions for her. She really wanted reconciliation and I will admit I did reconsider reconciliation for a moment, but I ultimately decided I couldn’t do it. My ex-wife and I, however, did keep the divorce amicable for the sake of our daughters, who are 13 and 15. But the divorce did affect our daughters a lot.
After the divorce was finalized, I wasn’t in any mood to have a relationship, but I did want to hookup and kind of become wild. The divorce proceedings took a year, and in that time I did spend a lot of time in the gym and on physical fitness, and by the time the divorce was finalized, I was the fittest I have ever been in my life.
And I have had some success on dating apps. I invite the dates over to my house when my daughters are away at their mom’s. We spend the night just relaxing, cooking dinner, watching movies, doing the deed, and then they leave the next morning.
However, what I forgot when I first bought someone over was that my older daughter had the Ring App installed on her phone, and so she could see who I invited in. And I hadn’t turned off the Ring camera when I invited my date in. My older daughter confronted me after seeing that I had invited someone into our house, and she said she wasn’t comfortable with it. I tried to be understanding, but my daughter was being really confrontational and she said it was disrespectful to her mom.
That’s when I finally put my foot down and told her it’s none of her business who I decide to date or bring over when she’s not in the house. I also removed my daughter’s email from the Ring account, so she can no longer view the Ring camera.
AITAH?
TOP COMMENT
Tell them now or risk losing them. It may come a point her mother will try to picture you as the bad guy
REPLY
Be gentle with your daughters, but do tell them it was because their mom made a mistake, was weak, and cheated, and as a result you stopped loving their mom. They are old enough to know the reason for the divorce.
Tell them you love them and their mom does too, but if you decide to have a new relationship eventually or remain single and date casually, they need to respect that, and that also, their mom might eventually do the same, as you are no longer in a romantic relationship with each other.
RESPONCE
You need to tell them that their mom cheated on you. They are old enough to know. After you tell them, don’t badmouth your ex in front of your daughters. Good luck.
