I (37F) have been married to my husband (41M) for three years, and he’s not great at giving gifts. In the past, he forgot or didn’t bother with gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, or holidays. I was hurt and decided to stop making big efforts for him too, like skipping the special plans I used to do for Father’s Day. After I wrote him a letter explaining my feelings, he promised to try harder, and things got a little better.
This Christmas, he took me to the mall to pick out my gift. I’ve been wanting a good designer purse for a long time and had even saved money for it. When I saw my dream purse, he agreed to buy it for me and said it would be my only gift, which I was totally fine with. I was so happy! When we got home, he asked me to leave the purse in the car because he wanted to add another small surprise to it before Christmas.
A few days later, we were on the way to his mom’s house with his daughter (16F), and I noticed she had my new purse! When I asked where she got it, she said her dad gave it to her. I was shocked and hurt. My husband explained that his daughter had seen the purse and begged him for it, saying he never gave her good gifts before. He gave in and gave her my purse.
I was devastated. This was my one Christmas gift, and it was something I had been dreaming about for months. I started crying and felt completely betrayed. At a gas station, while he went inside, I decided I’d had enough. I drove off, leaving him and his daughter there. I spent Christmas with my family instead.
Later, I found out his family was split on the situation. Some supported me, while others supported him. Since then, I’ve been distant from him. I don’t talk to him much, and I’ve stopped making him meals. I’m not angry anymore just deeply hurt. I don’t know how to move.
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NTA
But lady have some self-respect. This man has shown you multiple times he doesn’t value you.
He doesn’t care about you.
It isn’t about the purse but the lack of care for you. Literally gain backbone and divorce him. Set a better example for your son on how to treat their partner in a relationship.
NTA
But lady have some self-respect. This man has shown you multiple times he doesn’t value you.
He doesn’t care about you.
It isn’t about the purse but the lack of care for you. Literally gain backbone and divorce him. Set a better example for your son on how to treat their partner in a relationship.
Same. Immediate divorce. No counseling, etc. He doesn’t care about his wife at all and has been using her as bangmaid all this time.
