Alright strap in folks, this ones a doozy. I (32F) had/have been married to my (now ex) husband, john (33M) for 10 years. Until recently things were perfect. Until I found out that our son, Clive (3M) isn’t actually mine.
You see 8 years ago we started trying for kids. After a few years of negative pregnancy tests we started to get nervous and went to the doctor. The doctor said that while my eggs were functional I couldn’t get pregnant or carry a baby to term (this will be important later). Because my fallopian tubes were all weird, or something.
Enter my (ex)best friend Heather (31F) she offered to be a surrogate for me because she’d had 2 kids and the doctors said and I quote ‘they shot out like they were on a slip and slide’. So we did all the IVF stuff and my eggs and John’s sperm were implanted in Heather’s uterus and our baby was conceived. Or so I thought…
Yesterday John’s phone pinged with a message from Heather. I checked it (we have an open phone policy) and I discovered they were having a conversation about Clive’s paternity (maternity? I dunno). It turns out Clive’s blood type is AB- while John and I are O+.
I took John his phone and was like ‘why are you guys taking about Clive’s blood type. Just because it’s different than ours doesn’t mean you should exclude him, you biggot’. But then John dropped a BOMBSHELL!!!! Apparently around the time we did IVF john and Heather had sex… Three times. And when Heather got pregnant it wasnt my egg, it was with her SLUT egg.
I threw John out of the house (I owned it before we were married) and his family disowned him and his work fired him because I told HR he cheated and they have a morality clause. But after a few days I realised whenever I see Clive’s face I just see John and Heather’s betrayal. So I was like ‘out you go Clive’ and sent him to live with John (whose currently homeless LOL).
Aaaanyway my and John’s family have said I’ve taken it too far by abandoning Clive and have been blowing up my phone telling me I’m a terrible mother.
So AITA for ditching my kid.
Edit:
yes, I am currently suing Heather because I spent $50,000 on IVF and she snuck in and got pregnant, effectively wasting my IVF. Bitch.
Edit number 2:
please don’t ask about the science behind getting pregnant during IVF and if the doctors would have picked it up. Any holes in my story can be explained away by the fact that in my country we do IVF differently.
Edit number 3:
I’m getting a lot of questions about the blood types. I may have gotten the letters confused as English is my 6th language and I am not a scientist or letter expert. Thirdly, I don’t believe in blood types, I use astrology signs instead AND HEATHER IS A TAURUS AND CLIVE IS A LIBRA… THE STARS DON’T LIE. finally, I had an ancestry DNA test done yesterday and it came back this morning, John is the father and also first cousin and Clive is Asian… I have never noticed this before and I am shocked.
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Fun fact: there are cases of women conceiving an “extra” kid while doing IVF. I read a case about a lady who had 1 embryo inserted but ended up pregnant triplets with a set of identical twins and a fraternal triplet several days younger kicking around in there. Fascinating stuff. Great shitpost
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Thank you, I’ve spent a lot more time than I’d care to admit trying to figure out how there could be a gender swapped version of the ‘you’re not the father’ trope. I’m glad this one is actually possible (though I obviously hope it never happens to anybody).
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However, the main conflict is that they have been paying Heather in installments for the past 3 years, plus they prepaid for the next two because Heather offered a 5% pre-pay discount, as well as a $500 credit for paying cash instead of using a credit card.
Ex-husband wants to demand a refund but OP is worried that Heather will turn their account over to collections and damage OP’s good credit standing.
