My (32M) wife (30F) and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3. Six months ago, we had our first child. I’ve been doing everything I can to support her taking on extra chores, caring for our baby, and constantly reassuring her that she’s beautiful and that I love her, even though I know postpartum is rough. I thought we were a team, but apparently, I was wrong.
She was venting to her friend about how she’s been fantasizing about cheating on me with some guy from her work. She called him “exciting,” said he made her feel “wanted,” and even joked about how she’d keep it a secret if she decided to go through with it. She admitted nothing had happened yet, but she was “tempted.” Tempted? She was basically planning it out in her head!
I confronted her immediately. She cried, of course, and gave me every excuse in the book. She said she hates her body after giving birth, that she feels invisible, and that she didn’t really mean it. She blamed her so-called “body dysmorphia” for her behavior. Let me be clear: I’ve done nothing but reassure her that I love her and that she’s beautiful. I’ve been patient, supportive, and present, but apparently, that’s not enough for her.
She had the audacity to say it was just her “working through her feelings” and that I should understand because “she’s struggling.” Struggling? I’m the one who’s been breaking my back to hold this family together while she fantasizes about screwing someone else. She begged me not to leave, saying it was all in her head, and she’d never actually cheat. But how am I supposed to trust her now? She was already lining up her next move, and I’m supposed to just forgive her because it didn’t happen?
I told her I want a divorce. She called me cruel and heartless, accusing me of giving up on her when she needed me the most.I’m furious and heartbroken. I didn’t sign up to be someone’s backup plan while they fantasize about their coworker. I don’t want to raise my child in a home where resentment and distrust fester. So, AITA for ending it before she had the chance to fully cross the line?
TOP COMMENT
Once the trust is gone the relationship is done! Trust is the basis of a relationship, without that it’s nothing. She shown she has no moral compass and it was just a matter of time before she went through with it. She’s upset she got caught and that’s the only reason she’s upset! NTA
REPLY
Indeed, he’s cruel because he won’t be a doormat…wtf. No, it’s wrong & if she can’t accept that, there’s no relationship worth salvaging
RESPONCE
Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it’s broken. But you’ll always see the crack on that motherfuckers reflection”
Beyonce sadly
