I’m (F, 32) totally losing it with my husband (M, 35). We both have jobs, right, but when I come home, it’s like I’m running a one-woman show. I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, grocery shopping and I’m also the full-time mom to our two little ones, aged 7 and 4. But my husband? He just kicks back with a beer and does absolutely zilch.
With Christmas coming up, you can imagine how nuts things get. I’m trying to deck the halls, plan special meals, buy and wrap gifts all that holiday jazz on top of everyday stuff. But he won’t even pitch in with the small things, like helping with dinner or cleaning up after our kids.
I’ve brought it up so many times, like, “Can we share this a bit more? I’m drowning here.” But he’s always like, “I’m tired, I need to unwind.” Well, guess what? I’m tired too, but there’s no break for me.
Last night, I just lost it. I made dinner, the kids were going wild and I’m scrambling to keep everything together while he’s just chilling with his TV show. I flipped and told him I’m not his maid or his mom, he’s got to start pulling his weight.
He got all defensive, accused me of being dramatic and even suggested I should hire someone if I’m so overwhelmed. We ended up in this massive argument, him saying I’m trying to control everything. I feel like crap for how it escalated, but I’m at my limit.
When I shared this story, the comments were all like, “NTA.” People were saying he enjoys all the perks of home life without doing any of the work that’s not fair. Someone even said since we both work and have kids together, he should be an equal partner, not just a couch potato. Honestly, they were shocked I’ve been dealing with this for so long.
