The Barcelona trip was supposed to be a dream getaway. Just me and my best friend. We had been planning it for months imagining all the adventures and quality time we would spend together.
It was meant to be a girls-only escape a chance to reconnect and explore a new city without distractions. Everything changed when just two weeks before our flight she started seeing someone new.
She couldn’t stop talking about him and I was happy she had found someone special. Then she casually mentioned she was thinking about inviting him to join us on the trip. At first I thought it was a joke or a passing idea but she kept bringing it up.
My heart sank. This was supposed to be our trip just the two of us. Adding her boyfriend someone I barely knew felt like it would completely shift the dynamic.
I tried to express my feelings gently explaining that I had been looking forward to spending one-on-one time with her. She brushed it off and said I was being unreasonable. According to her having him there for a couple of days wouldn’t change anything. But I disagreed. I didn’t want to feel like a third wheel on what was supposed to be a bonding experience for us.
Our conversation turned into a heated argument. She accused me of not being supportive of her new relationship while I insisted that this wasn’t about her boyfriend it was about preserving the plans we had made.
Eventually she got frustrated and said that if I didn’t want him there she would just cancel her ticket. I didn’t think she would actually go through with it but the next day I found out she had.
She told me flat out that she wasn’t going to Barcelona without him and that I was being too rigid for not compromising. I was stunned. This trip was something we had both been excited about for so long and now it was falling apart because she wanted to bring someone she had only just started dating.
Now I’m torn between guilt and frustration. I didn’t want to ruin our friendship but I also didn’t think it was wrong to want to stick to our original plan. The idea of being alone in Barcelona isn’t what I envisioned and losing the trip and potentially the bond we share over this feels devastating.
Was it selfish to want to keep the trip just for us or was she the one being unfair by demanding to include her boyfriend?