I read this story on Reddit about a guy (27M) who’s feeling uncomfortable around his fiancée’s (27F) sister and his best friend (28M), who recently started dating. Earlier this year, his fiancée’s sister moved in with them, and they quickly bonded. Since his fiancée works two jobs and is in higher education, she’s often busy, leaving him and her sister hanging out frequently.
The sister fit in perfectly with his friend group, even joining their gaming sessions. Over time, it became clear that one of his close friends had feelings for her. Despite her self-worth struggles, she eventually realized his feelings were genuine, and they shared a romantic moment.
Since then, dynamics have shifted. His friend now spends more time with the sister and less time with him or his fiancée, even dropping their usual hiking trips. He finds himself getting fewer invites from his friend, who seems focused on his budding relationship.
The real struggle comes when he’s left alone with them. Seeing two of his closest people flirt and connect reminds him of how distant his own relationship feels, given his fiancée’s demanding schedule. Though he knows her workload is temporary, it still stings to witness their growing connection while feeling neglected in his own relationship.
He’s also aware that his friend and the sister seem hesitant to move forward because they think they lack his approval. This leaves him torn—he doesn’t want to hold them back but also can’t shake the discomfort of being a third wheel.
“Your feelings are valid. You’re not the bad guy for feeling uncomfortable. Just be honest with them about needing some time to adjust.”
“You’re not responsible for their happiness, and it’s okay to set boundaries. A good friend will understand that it’s complicated for you.”
Navigating shifting dynamics in friendships and relationships can be tricky. Should he give them his blessing while acknowledging his feelings or take a step back to protect his emotional well-being? What would you do in his shoes?