I read a story on Reddit about a guy (27M) trying to figure out the mixed signals he’s getting from a coworker (25F) he briefly dated. Their situation is as confusing as it gets, and he’s wondering what she really wants.
They dated for about a month before she ended things, saying he was overthinking and too hesitant to make a move. Wanting to keep things civil at work, he suggested they stay friends. For three weeks, they didn’t speak at all, until they ended up at lunch with mutual colleagues. She started small talk, asking how he was doing, and later that night, she texted him, initiating a casual conversation. However, it fizzled quickly when he gave slow replies, and they didn’t chat much after that.
The pattern continued: every time he stopped paying her attention, she’d reach out or find reasons to talk to him. Over the next month, they developed a rhythm where she’d text him sporadically, and whenever they’d hang out in social settings especially after a few drinks their interactions turned flirty. She’d compliment his outfits, tease him playfully, and not seem to mind subtle physical contact like their legs brushing. Yet, when sober, she’d take days to reply to texts, though she still asked him to lunch or made plans to see him.
Most recently, they were at a pub, and she was being especially flirty and engaging. The next day at the office, they shared one of those long eye contact moments before she looked away. Despite these seemingly warm moments, her lack of consistent communication is throwing him off.
“She might be confused herself. Flirting when drunk and avoiding texts sober could mean she’s unsure about her feelings or just hesitant to take things further.”
“You’re not imagining things she’s being hot and cold. The real question is whether you’re okay with this uncertainty or if it’s worth stepping back for clarity.”
“If you’re both still interested, have a direct conversation. Mixed signals will only make things more complicated if left unchecked.”
This story highlights how tricky it can be to navigate relationships, especially when emotions and workplace dynamics are involved. What do you think is she sending mixed signals, or is he reading too much into it?