I read this story on Reddit about a couple struggling with their living arrangement at the husband’s family home. The poster explained that she and her husband moved in with her mother-in-law (MIL) and sister-in-law (SIL) to save money, but over time, the situation has become unbearable.
The initial plan was for this arrangement to be temporary, but it has dragged on for over a year. Despite making numerous suggestions to improve the household dynamic, such as dividing chores and addressing issues like a broken oven with cost-effective solutions, the poster feels ignored and dismissed. For example, she suggested buying burners as a temporary solution to the broken oven, which her MIL dismissed. Days later, her SIL purchased burners as if it was her idea.
The couple has also found themselves taking on the bulk of the chores and financial responsibilities in the house, adding to their stress. While they’ve had several candid conversations with the MIL and SIL about how this is affecting their mental health, nothing has changed. The poster feels like their concerns are not being taken seriously, and she and her husband are walking on eggshells constantly.
Now, they’re considering moving out to protect their well-being. However, they’re hesitant because their departure could create financial hardship for the MIL and SIL, who depend on their contributions to household expenses. They’re grappling with guilt but also recognize the need to prioritize their mental health.
The poster asked if moving out would make them the villains in this situation, and many commenters agreed that prioritizing their mental health is the right move. As one person pointed out: “You and your husband are your primary family now… the others can rent a room if they need more money.” If they needed your help, they would treat you with respect.”
The consensus was that the couple wouldn’t be wrong to leave, especially since the lack of respect and understanding from the MIL and SIL is pushing them out. Many commenters encouraged them to find their own place and start fresh without guilt.