My ex-fiancé and I dated for just under three years. At the beginning, he was in a rough spot homeless with twin kids. I opened my home to him, despite our one-bedroom apartment being cramped and took on a significant motherly role for his children.
However, he had deep-seated jealousy issues. Despite my faithfulness, his past experiences with infidelity seemed to haunt him. Our relationship hit a rough patch when I complimented Jamie Foxx’s appearance during a movie, leading to what my friends now call “The Jamie Foxx Debacle,” where he moved out suddenly, taking everything with him.
We reconciled and after two more years together, he proposed and I got pregnant. The joy was short lived; I miscarried in my second trimester. His insensitive remark during my grief, “It’s not hard for me because I already have a son and daughter,” was a profound low point.
A month after, we went on a vacation to the Cayman Islands for my parents’ 25th anniversary, all expenses covered by them except for our personal activities. On the third day, he accused me of cheating during my pregnancy.
The next day, after a casual comment about his haircut affordability (despite his $85k/year job), he flipped out, left us at the beach and after a terrifying drive back to our Airbnb, he bought an expensive last-minute flight home, abandoning us without a word.
Upon returning, I tried to salvage our relationship, but the red flags were too numerous to ignore. I eventually stepped back from his kids, forcing him into the parenting role he should have always been fulfilling.
So, Reddit… AITA for leaving him? I poured my heart into this relationship, overlooked so many warning signs and compromised my well-being. I truly loved his kids and envisioned a future with him, but at what cost? Was I wrong for walking away?
People responded “I’m curious if anyone around you is actually suggesting you made the wrong move by ending things with him, or if you’re just feeling guilty. If your friends are naming drama like what happened with Jamie Foxx, they probably aren’t fans of his. I bet your friends and family were quietly enduring all this for your sake; it’s tough to leave a toxic relationship without support.”
“NTA. You should’ve left after that heartless comment following your miscarriage. It’s sad for his kids, but he’s clearly not cut out to be a good partner or father.”
