My wife (30F) and I (31M) have been together since high school. We moved out together, got married, and had kids. Over the years, she has cheated on me multiple times, with old boyfriends or coworkers. Somehow, I always forgave her.
This Christmas, we visited family over three days. After a long day of driving and taking care of the kids, she said she wanted to visit her best friend. I was tired but told her it was okay. She promised to be back by midnight.
Later, I got suspicious and messaged her friend, who didn’t reply. Hours later, my wife came home and stayed outside on the phone. I found out she had been cheating again with a guy from work. I was heartbroken.
The next day, I told everyone what happened, kicked her out of the house, and decided to divorce her. I’ve forgiven her too many times, and I’m done being hurt.
Top Comments
No, you’re not wrong at all. You gave her so many chances, and she kept breaking your trust. You deserve better!
Wow, 12 times is a lot! It’s good you’re standing up for yourself now.
No, you’re not the asshole. You’ve been dealing with betrayal after betrayal, and this last incident was the final straw. You’ve given her multiple chances, and she continued to disrespect you. It’s completely understandable that you’d protect your emotional well-being and decide to leave. You deserve honesty and respect, and it sounds like you’re finally choosing to prioritize yourself and your happiness.
Honestly, it’s your decision, but if my wife cheated on me a single time, it would be over between us.
Final thoughts
The final takeaway from this post is that you’re absolutely justified in your actions. You’ve demonstrated immense patience and forgiveness over the years, even in the face of repeated betrayal. However, everyone has their limits, and it’s clear that your wife’s continued disrespect and disregard for your trust have pushed you to that point.
By deciding to end the relationship and stand up for yourself, you’re prioritizing your emotional health and setting boundaries that are crucial for your well-being. This choice, though painful will allow you to heal and eventually build a life based on trust, respect, and honesty. It’s a tough decision but it’s the right one for your happiness and peace of mind. You’re not the bad guy here sometimes, walking away is the strongest and healthiest thing you can do.