My friend forgot my birthday this year, and it was the second time she’s done this. For some context, we are in our early 20s, not married, and no kids yet. I’m not a big birthday person and it wasn’t a milestone year, so I asked a week before my birthday if she wanted to just grab lunch as it was a Sunday. She said she had a trip planned, which was understandable. I ended up having dinner with another friend. The day rolled around and not even a ‘happy birthday’, but she did text me numerous times to send me pictures of her getting her nails done, her drink order, etc.
Fast forward to her birthday, which is in January. She wants to go to a really fancy restaurant where prices are between $100 and $150 per person. And since it’s a birthday, I will be required to buy a gift, too. Firstly, this took me by surprise because we never planned to celebrate together. Honestly, I’d never spend that much on one meal anyway, as I just think it’s kind of absurd. Especially in this current economic climate where groceries are $$$. I also mentioned to her a while ago that I’m on a tight budget as I’m saving towards a big purchase, alongside paying the usual bills. Not to mention, Christmas has just passed so it’s been a period of spending on gifts and food.
Here’s the thing: she just recently got a raise at work. So, she’s been on kind of a spending spree as a reward. Am I justified in feeling a little ticked off that she just expects me to do the same and spend an absurd amount of money in celebrating her?
TOP COMMENT
I think I would go more ironic/sarcastic…
Send her a picture of you doing your own nails. Send a picture of your meal from McDonald’s or some other fast food joint. If she has a restaurant she particularly hates, use that one instead. Send a picture with you chilling on the couch watching something on TV… Make sure she can see that there’s a commercial playing when you send it.
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Right ! OP don’t forget to say, ‘Sorry, I have already made plans for that day.’ This girl sounds very self-absorbed. Normally, I would say do the adult thing and just talk to her, calling her out on her behaviour, but with some people, it would fall on deaf ears, and I think she might be one of them. OP, you are justified for feeling angry; I would feel the same way.
$150 is my ASS and I bet she would be expecting all her friends to pay for her part of the bill because she is ‘the birthday girl’!
RESPONCE
A picture of a sad little cupcake with a single candle, with the line:
‘I hope you feel more celebrated than I did.’
