This story highlights the emotional tension that can arise when personal differences and high expectations collide in the stressful lead-up to a wedding. Here’s the situation:
The writer, a bride-to-be, has been navigating a tough time. Her grandmother recently passed away, and amidst her grief, she’s been trying to stay on track with wedding planning. When she finally felt ready to tackle dress shopping, she invited her mom, sisters, and her maid of honor, Chloe, to come along for fittings.
The bride envisioned a bold, memorable wedding and opted for a red wedding dress instead of a traditional white one. While trying on dresses, she noticed Chloe acting off rolling her eyes, whispering under her breath, and eventually making a hurtful comment that red wouldn’t look good on the bride’s dark skin. The bride was deeply hurt but chose to ignore it at the time.
Things got worse when it was time for the bridesmaid dress fittings. Chloe, who’s seven months pregnant, complained about the red dress color and needing something that wouldn’t squeeze her belly. While the bride tried to accommodate her, Chloe stayed on her phone, refused to participate, and didn’t choose a dress. The bride felt increasingly frustrated and ignored.
By the end of the shopping trip, the bride decided enough was enough. She told Chloe she wasn’t going to be the maid of honor anymore because it didn’t seem like Chloe wanted to be part of the wedding at all. Chloe was shocked, but the bride stood her ground.
“NTA. Your wedding is a major milestone, and if Chloe can’t be supportive or respectful during this time, she doesn’t need to be the maid of honor. That comment about your skin tone was unacceptable. You deserve people who uplift you.”
“I get why you’re upset, but maybe Chloe is overwhelmed with her pregnancy and didn’t know how to communicate her feelings. Maybe you should talk things out before making a final decision.”
The bride isn’t an AH for removing Chloe as maid of honor especially after the hurtful comment about her skin tone and Chloe’s apparent disinterest in participating. Weddings are about love, support, and celebrating with people who genuinely want to be there for you. That said, Chloe might be dealing with her own challenges, particularly with being pregnant, and communication could go a long way. If the friendship is worth saving, a calm conversation might help both parties understand each other’s perspectives. If not, it’s okay to prioritize your happiness and surround yourself with people who make your day joyful.