Hi everyone,
It’s been a while, and I’ve seen many people asking for updates. I wasn’t ready to share before, as this whole situation has left me devastated. I’ve been crying myself to sleep every night, and I feel like my world has completely fallen apart. I’ve lost my husband, my family and my daughter.
To start, it’s official I’m getting divorced. My husband served me with the divorce papers, and he wants nothing to do with me or my daughter anymore.
I’ve had to move out of our home and am now staying with a friend while I try to get back on my feet. I have cut off contact with my family because they’ve been harassing me, but they keep trying to reach me using different phone numbers and fake social media profiles. They have even shown up at my friend’s apartment, making things difficult for her as well. I don’t know how much longer I can stay here without impacting her life more.
I can’t afford to get my own place right now. My husband used to pay all the bills but now I’m on my own. My daughter left about a week ago she packed her things and disappeared in the middle of the night. I don’t know where she is, and her friends won’t tell me anything.
She’s also in big trouble. She kept trying to contact my husband (soon-to-be ex-husband) even after he got a restraining order against her. When she violated it, he had her arrested. I tried to talk to her but she insisted she could fix everything. Clearly, things only got worse.
Now, my daughter can’t continue college because my ex has stopped paying her tuition and other expenses. He sent me a message saying he’s done with both of us because we didn’t respect his boundaries. He even threatened legal action if we or my family keep harassing him.
I told my daughter she’d have to drop out of college and get a job since, I can’t afford to help her financially. After that, she left without saying much. I have no idea where she is now.
My ex-husband has completely shut me out. He’s cold and refuses to talk about anything except the divorce. At first, he said he would help me financially until I got on my feet but now he’s sticking strictly to the primp. Which means, I won’t get anything. He thinks I only wanted to use him and now he is done with me.
Despite everything, I still want him back. I miss the kind, caring man I was married to. I asked him if we could try to fix our marriage after my daughter moved out but he didn’t even respond. The last message he sent was about signing the divorce papers and telling my family to leave him alone. He said if they don’t stop harassing him, he’ll report them too.
For those asking why, I didn’t do more to stop the lies when they started, I tried everything. I even shared a video with some of my family members to clear his name but it didn’t help. The video had no audio. so, it only showed him knocking and then walking into my daughter’s room. She claimed she told him not to enter, and people believed her over him.
This is where I’m at now. I’ve lost everything. I don’t know what to do or how to fix my life, but I wanted to share this update since many of you were asking. Thank you for reading.
Comments and its Replies
Not going to happen. Move on.
I don’t want anything, i just want him back.
I don’t want anything, i just want him back.
This man doesn’t exist anymore, at least not for OP. He wouldn’t be sweet and caring even if somehow he got back.
OP, try to guess how far away he wants to be from a woman who was so close to destroy his whole life? As far as possible and it means as far as possible from you.
Your STBX doesn’t want to reconcile with you. Once broken, some things can’t be fixed. Sign the papers so you can both move on.
Exactly. Dragging this out is only going to make it harder for both of them. If reconciliation isn’t what he wants, then the best thing OP can do is respect his decision, sign the papers and focus on moving forward. It’s tough, but it’s the healthiest option for everyone involved.
Agreed!! Prolonging the inevitable will only cause more pain and heartache for everyone involved.
